Girls love gifts and despite the fact that you have already presented her with a gift that’s priceless to say the least (the opportunity to sleep with you everyday of the week), she expects you inundate her with love trinkets.
That’s what happened to me a few days back. I thought I was dating a chick who professed to have feelings that went way deeper than material gifts. Since she had made it her mission to drill a hole three quarters down my cerebellum and implant the idea that all she wanted was my ‘love’, one can hardly blame me for my naivety to have taken her word for it.
She didn’t wait long however, before throwing a nasty curveball whining about how her friends’ boyfriends keep presenting them with boast-worthy gifts – flowers, jewellery, designer watches… they name it, their boyfriends get it.
A poorly veiled rant about my lack of consideration, which gave her friends the opportunity make her feel that she was dating a cheapskate. I certainly wasn’t one so just to make her feel ‘special’ I raided Archies and got her a very attractive and reasonably expensive pair of earrings.
However, by doing this I have inadvertently opened the door to the parallel dimension of loser dudes who have to buy their way into a girl’s pants. And as a warning to all my readers, avoid this zone like a plague and don’t fall for it the way I did.
Especially if your beloved is surrounded by a band of powerpuff pals who are used to having their outrageous demands fulfilled by supplicating wussy boyfriends, she will pretty soon try to turn you into one as well. Don’t get trapped. What you can instead do is to get her gifts that are actually meaningful. Checkout this article on thoughtful gifts if you need ideas.
In a relationship avoid the supplicating frame at all costs. The more you give in, the more you will be sucked into her whirlpool of demands. Given below are three of the most common scenarios you that seem innocuous yet they are deadly if you get caught:
She expects you to call her up every night: It may have started out as fun and you too were full of romantic beans and up for the challenge. However, you don’t have to call her just because you have been doing so everyday for the past couple of weeks. That is unless you actually want to be taken for granted.
She expects to be picked and dropped off: You have a bike/car and being her boyfriend she quite reasonably expects you to double up as her chauffer as well. And why not, since all her previous boyfriends were ‘nice’ enough to pick her up at a moments notice. Exceptions are always there. If she genuinely needs your help, be a gentleman. But if she tries turning it into a daily routine, be man enough to draw a line.
She expects to you take her shopping: Unless you are one of those guys who relish the idea of watching their girlfriends try out twenty different tops, a dozen shoes and a plethora of accessories, you know where the hills are located. Because after a couple of shopping trips with your girl that’s where you will be running to.